Project Runway 13x08 - The Rainway
Sean Kelly #designersean
OH MY GOD TUMBLR
QUIT RECCING THAT BLOG WITH THE DAMN LIPSTICK FEMINISM GIFSET
I feel like people get anxious or embarrassed about saying nice things about others because it looks ‘fangirly’ or desperate or something and I’m not into it.
So I wanna shoutout to thunderboltsortofapenny and ink-phoenix for being a couple people that dig Cap and are conversational when I invade with AU angst and make me go ‘hey, not everyone sucks’ on a regular basis.
Like, I wish I knew people like them irl because even the bits of conversation we’ve had are super pleasant and I appreciate their existence in my tumblr world. You two are cool.
Down with feeling weird about saying nice things.
My dream for the 2016 presidential election is not having to choose which human rights I’m feeling like compromising on.
Rook is *so* perfect for lil Mikey
TRUE STORY his name was the easiest, after Bruce’s.
i am weeping thank you so much for this
SCREAMING ABOUT THE CARTER-JONESES “ROOK & rAiNbOW” I CAN’T (d’aww Steve is “Brooklyn”)
I really really like everyone’s codenames but the kids are the most adorable and fun to come up with.
Alright kids, let’s talk about coping mechanisms.
There are multiple kinds of coping mechanisms. Generally they can be grouped under ‘healthy’ and ‘unhealthy.’
Notice how I didn’t say ‘good’ or ‘bad’?
Because often a coping mechanism is developed when someone’s drowning and they’re trying to stay alive. We develop our ways to fight back, to deal, to survive, at the best of our abilities whilst trying to process and deal with our trauma.
I’m not endorsing self-harm. I’m not endorsing drug use. I’m not endorsing any of a million different unhealthy ways I’ve seen people rely on as a manner of coping.
But for fuck’s sake, do not blame a trauma survivor for how they cope with said trauma. That won’t fucking help anyone. That will make them feel nothing but shame, pain, guilt, reinforce that they’re at fault, that they’re fucked up, irremediably fucked up.
You know what you can do? Help them. Help them find better ways to cope. Suggest a therapist, and if they’re not open to the idea just then, don’t push. Try again later. Be there for them if you can. And do not, do not make them feel guilty for how they are coping. Reinforce the fact that their coping mechanisms, however unhealthy, helped them get there. Helped them make it through. Kept them alive. Try and remind them they are worth more than they can see. That they are more than the sum of their parts. Make them feel accepted, and loved no matter what they did to themselves while they tried to survive.
They survived and your job as a friend, as a support group, is not to belittle them for how they managed to do it, but to be there for them, and help them bridge the gap to a healthier way of coping, dealing, healing, and getting to a better place.
I repeat, there’s no such thing as a bad coping mechanism. You cope. That’s the point of it. If someone you love is using an unhealthy coping mechanism, be gentle; be kind; be patient. Try to show them they don’t have to do use that anymore, point them towards better ways to handle it. Allow them to be angry, and lash out, and feel righteous in their fury. Remember words can break people. Be aware of the damage you can do. Ask about triggers.
And if you can’t stick it through, that is also a prerogative of yours. Everyone needs to do what they have to do to protect themselves, and nobody should set themselves on fire to keep someone else warm. There can come a point where you need to cut someone out, especially if the person refuses help, and the relationship has become one sided, or abusive - which is why you should try, as much as you can, to help them get to a therapist, to get professional help. Friends aren’t therapists. They’re the supporting crutches, not the casts for the broken bones.
But for the love of god, don’t make a trauma survivor feel guilty for what they did to survive.
They survived. That’s accomplishment enough.
Yes. Yes in fact I do.
The First Family
Steven Grant Rogers - Brooklyn
Sarah Rogers - Rover
Vice President and Family
Melinda May - Calvary
Suyin May - Clover
Cabinet and Joint Chiefs
James “Rhodey” Rhodes - Patriot
Nicholas “Nick” J Fury - Visio
Maria Hill - Stalwart
James “Bucky” Barnes - Rifle, Beacon
Anthony “Tony” Stark - Ferrum
Bruce Banner - Gamma
Clinton “Clint” Francis Barton - Hawkeye
Natasha Romanoff - Karakurt, Flamingo
*as relevant to the plot
Peter Parker - Anansi
MJ Watson - Serenity
Virginia “Pepper” Potts - Firebird
Alexander Pierce - Searchlight
Foreign Dignitaries and Family
Margaret “Peggy” Carter-Jones - Regent
Gabriel Jones - Rebel
Michael “Mikey” Carter-Jones - Rook
Kathleen “Katie” Carter-Jones - Rainbow
Thor Odinson - Volt
Loki Laufeyson - Fenrir
T’Challa - Panther
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